First thing's first: if you haven't tried any kind of butt play yet, you're going to want to engage in a tactic called "anal training," explains Janet Brito, PhD, a certified sex therapist and founder of the Hawaii Center for Sexual and Relationship Health. In short, anal training is when you test the waters with a finger or toy and work your way up to bigger girths (like a penis or strap-on). This method helps the anal muscles acclimate to penetration, lowering your risk of tearing and pain.
Wondering how to know if you're ready to engage in anal play? Well, you might just naturally crave the experience and the sensation, Brito says. It's also possible for the desire to come about in the form of curiosity, explains Deb Laino, PhD, a certified sex therapist and doctor of health science. Perhaps you've discussed it with a partner or you're eager to try it out on your own, Laino says. Either way, be sure to move at your own pace, and don't rush the process if you feel any physical or emotional discomfort, she adds.
If you're a first-timer, peep these pro tips: 1. Use more lube than you think you need. 2. Have at least one bowel movement about an hour before you engage in any kind of butt stuff, says Brito. Both of these actions will minimize any discomfort you might experience during initial insertion. Have some experience under your belt (literally)? You can still add some fun, new toys to your next romp.
Wherever you're at in your sexual journey, these are the 18 best butt plugs for all skill and comfort levels, according to experts.
If you’re new to anal play, you probably want to start with a beginner-level butt plug without any bells and whistles. Available in a range of sizes, the Bootie plug has an easy-to-insert tapered tip and super soft silicone.
Plus, this butt plug has a flared base, making it ideal for beginners, Brito says. Because the toy's base is long and wide, it's easier to pull in and out of the anus if you need to do so in a pinch, Brito explains (a.k.a. there's less of a chance it gets lost up there).
The Butt tingler has smooth, gentle curves to give you a little extra junk in the trunk without overwhelming newbies. Enjoy three vibration speeds and seven different patterns, all delivered in a soft silicone toy. The whole thing is waterproof, so you can use it in the shower, too.
This is slightly different than other options out there: Lovehoney’s inflatable butt plug goes in and then can be inflated with the attached pump until you get to the perfect girth. After that, turn on the vibrations and ride it out. Pumped it up a little too much? Just press the button on the side to let out extra air. Worth noting: This toy is recommended for intermediate and advanced users—i.e. this shouldn’t be your first anal plug.
There’s a lot going on with the Vector. For starters, this toy boasts an impressive 10 vibrations to help you find that just-right sensation. It’s also controlled by a remote, along with a button on its base, and an app, giving you (or your partner) plenty of options to call the shots. The whole thing is USB rechargeable and completely waterproof.
Why settle for one new toy when you can have six? The Bumper Booty kit contains butt plugs, anal beads, a prostate toy, and a bullet vibrator, so you can mix things up again and again. It’s all covered in silicone for a smooth, second-skin feel.
You’ve got to start somewhere with anal, and this Lovehoney kit will ensure you have a good time while you’re getting up to speed. It features a butt plug, vibrating butt plug, vibrating anal beads, and probe, to do your booty a solid.
Some butt plugs have a few features. The Lovehoney Ignite has 20 (not a typo). Enjoy three speeds and 17 patterns delivered by this pocket-sized plug. The whole thing has a travel lock, so you don’t have to stress about it going off while you make your way through airport security, and comes with its own storage bag.
Jelly Rancher Pleasure Anal Training Butt Plug Kit
Anal adventurers weren’t created in a day. This training kit lets you build up to larger girths, so you can feel as comfortable as possible while experimenting. Made from soft plastic, these toys are compatible with all lubes.
Glams Silicone Mini Butt Plug with Rainbow Crystal
There’s no reason why your butt plug has to look ugly. The Glams butt plug has a rainbow-colored gem at the end for a pretty touch of sparkle. It’s also small—like, about the size of your pinky finger—making it perfect for first-timers.
Made of smooth and highly durable tempered glass, this toy is hypoallergenic and easy to clean. It’s also fracture-resistant and has a wide base to make removal simple. The cool glass adds a slightly different feel than what you’d get with silicone or other materials.
Is it getting hot in here, or is it your butt plug? The Chromatic color-changing silicone plug changes color as it warms up. (Think of it as a mood ring…but for your butt.) A long, thin neck and cradle-like base make this plug easy to insert and remove as needed.
The Quiver butt plug has a built-in vibrating bullet, making it "great for those who know they enjoy the sensation of vibration," Brito says. That said, it's more of a "add-on," meaning that you shouldn't bring vibrations into the mix if you're not already comfortable with a ~normal butt plug~.
And yup, its unique shape—a thin tip with an angled and bulbous shaft—puts it on a different level from most anal vibes: You can insert it easily and feel more fullness as it slips into place.
At just 2.5 inches of insertable length, this plug is all kinds of cute. It's made of metal, not silicone, which may feel a bit smoother, too.
"The cool thing about metal is that it can adjust to your body temperature," Brito adds. Another bonus of metal sex toys? You can use a silicone-based lube, which tends to last longer than water-based lube and feels frictionless on the body, Brito says.
ICYDK, silicone toys (which many sex toys are made of) require water-based lube so as not to cause damage to the item's surface.
For those of you who want to change up which materials you use in the bedroom, consider bringing this glass butt plug into the mix, suggests Brito. With 500+ reviews that rarely dip below five stars, this flower plug has a decorative base to keep the toy from getting lost, a sturdy neck, and a slim design that makes it easy to insert.
And toys made of glass are easier to clean than other materials, Brito says, seeing as it's less porous. Just be super careful when handling to avoid breaking. No one wants shattered glass near their...yeah, you know.
Interested in having your butt plug presented to you in a satin-lined case? Meet the Pfun plug, which weighs in at nearly a pound of pure stainless steel. And yup, this toy is designed with a tilt, indicating that it's meant for prostate stimulating, Brito says.
If you're prostate-less, rest assured that reviewers attest to extremely pleasurable, indirect G-spot stimulation when used in combination with penetration. A gentle reminder, though: Since the size of this plug is pretty XL, be sure to steer clear if you're a beginner, as it might be too intense, Brito says.
The b-Vibe Rimming Plug packs an added punch: rotating beads in the plug's neck, meant to simulate like—you guessed it—a rim job. And while vibrating butt plugs can be a lot of fun, the obligation to reach behind and push a button to turn them on can also be annoying. A remote control solves that problem.
"The remote also makes it ideal if you're playing with it alone," Laino says, since you're not near a partner who can change the vibration from behind for you. When it comes to partner play, though, you can spice things up by giving your partner control over the vibration's speed and rhythm, Laino says.
The curved, tilted design isn't just for looks: It helps stimulate the prostate or G-spot for maximum pleasure. And that cute little heart-shaped handle? It makes the toy a cinch to remove with just two fingers.
"This toy might be easier to use for someone who is alone," Brito explains. "Especially if you're a little wary of experimentation," she adds. How so? Well, you can hold onto the handle the entire time, having greater control of how deep the plug goes in or out.
For adventurous types who enjoy public play, consider the We-Vibe Ditto, a smart plug that connects to the We-Vibe app and allows you (or a partner) to control the device straight from your phone. So scandalous!
"This plug is a little bit more discreet," Brito adds. "You can go out into the community, have some kink play, and be a little more adventurous." One idea? Bring it out to the club or bar and have your partner control it while you're on the dance floor, Brito suggests.
Bruno is designed for simultaneous perineum and prostate stimulation, making it a fun option for anyone with a penis-having partner. The plug packs two motors and offers eight separate settings, so you can play around with speed and patterns.
And BTW, the aerodynamic shape will make it easier to insert, Laino notes. That said, be sure you're working up to this one if you're a beginner, Brito says, as it may be a little too large to use from the get-go.
The Trio from B-Vibe has not one, but three powerful motors, to deliver serious vibrations from the anus to the perineum. The 4-plus inches of insertable length make it clutch for more advanced anal fans, too.
But it's also on the thinner side to appeal to newbies. So, if you want a butt plug that will take you from beginner to advanced, this one might be an ideal (albeit pricey) option, says Brito.
OhMiBod knows how to party, and they want to bring that party to your anus. The vibrating butt plug will buzz to the beat of music (via the Club mode) or to the pattern you or your partner chooses (through the wireless remote).
Here's a suggestion: Use this one with a partner or rather, make it work for one, Brito says. Queue up a playlist that makes you feel sexy, sync it up your Club Vibe, and just let the beat of the music bring you to a sweet climax.
If you're a dildo fan, you'll love this penis-inspired butt plug. The head and shaft allow for shallow pleasure and will prepare you for the real thing (if you haven't gone there yet...).
"I think the main thing with these kinds of plugs is that people enjoy the life-like aspect to it," Brito says. And as long as you clean it in between uses, you can even make it serve a double use as a dildo, Brito explains.
You’ll need to be careful with any glass toy designed for the anus, but product reviewers report that Lovehoney's glass plug makes for a smooth insertion and removal, as well as extremely easy cleaning (meaning there's less of a chance of it breaking).
As a bonus, a glass plug is totally safe to use with any kind of lubricant, Brito adds.
As part of Lovehoney's Basics collection, the Slimline offers it all: A thin, streamlined butt plug without too much flair, an angled tip for optimal pleasure, an easy-to-grab base for removal, and a totally affordable price tag ($13). It's a really good place to start if you're interested, but not completely sold on plug play.
Another reason to grab this bargain butt plug? There's a suction cup at the bottom, Brito says. This means you can attached it to the ground and ride it as you please for some solo fun.
The b-Vibe Triplet is basically what you would get if a vibrating butt plug and anal beads got together and somehow produced offspring. A tower of three graded beads atop a curved base, the Triplet houses two motors and comes with a convenient remote.
Want to amp up your use of these beads? Right at the moment of orgasm, you (carefully) pull out the sex toy to create a more powerful climax feel, Laino says. BTW, this one is definitely not for beginners, she adds.
The Petit Sensations Plug is a slim, beginner-level butt plug that incorporates a detachable bullet vibrator. Use them together or separately; either way, it’s a lot of bang for a reasonable number of bucks.
"I'd describe this butt plug as small, pretty, non-invasive, and non-threatening," Laino says. "This would be a great option for someone who's a beginner to anything vibrating." So if you're new to butt plugs *and* you want to add in some extra sensation, this is the one for you.
Want P-in-the-V sex while getting anal penetration? The Inside Job combines a simple cock ring with a beginner-friendly butt plug, which means it's offering you "double the sensation," Brito says. It's also a great budget buy, coming in at under $25.
"If you want some more adventure, this could be a nice option for you" Brito notes. Plus, sometimes wearing a cock ring can make a penis-owning partner last longer, Brito notes, if that's something you'd want.
Korin MillerKorin Miller is a freelance writer specializing in general wellness, sexual health and relationships, and lifestyle trends, with work appearing in Men’s Health, Women’s Health, Self, Glamour, and more.
Madeline HowardMadeline Howard is a writer, editor, and creative based in Brooklyn.