Sure, there are plenty of viable ways to determine whether or not you and your crush are compatible when considering getting into a relationship. Like, do you both want kids? Do your lifestyles match up? The list goes on. And if you’re an astrology nerd, odds are you’re probably looking at your potential bae’s zodiac sign, too. As you should! Astrological compatibility exists for a reason—namely, the insanely common desire to find out if your love is truly written in the stars.
But before you start asking for your crush's birth date, you should know that zodiac sign compatibility isn't as simple as comparing sun signs (a.k.a. the sign based on your birthday). That's actually best for testing compatibility in work relationships, according to Donna Page, a certified astrologer in Atlanta. "If you want to focus on romance or sex, you need to look for the Venus in your sign," she explains.
Why? "Venus is what we enjoy," Page says. It’s all about dating and romance, while your sun sign is more general. If you don't know your Venus sign offhand (because, let’s be real, who does?), don’t worry. As a general rule of thumb, "your Venus can never be more than 48 degrees away from your sun sign," according to Page. That means most people’s Venus is either in their sun sign, or in the sign either behind or ahead it. For instance, if your sun sign is Gemini, your Venus will most likely be in Gemini, Taurus, or Cancer, explains Page.
To figure out yours and your love interest's Venus signs, plug your/their date of birth in a Venus sign calculator. Or if you have an astrology app on your phone, you can easily find your Venus in your overall birth chart.
That said, once you have each other’s Venus signs, you’ll need to know how to assess that compatibility. One of the best ways is by looking at the element with which your Venus sign is associated: fire, earth, water, or air, says astrologer Sanasjia Clervoix. "Sharing an element gives the relationship a sense of comfortability. They feel familiar to you," she says.
People tend to have the most compatibility with those who share the element in their Venus signs, but there are two pairing exceptions to this rule, says astrologer Valerie Mesa: fire signs with air signs, as well as earth signs with water signs. In these combinations, values and characteristics mesh super well, making for an overall good love match.
Curious to learn more about your Venus sign, element compatibility, and more? Time to find out if the universe approves of your latest dating app match, or if you should keep on swiping…
If your Venus is in the sign of Aries, you need to feel loved and inspired to be happy. And, when it comes to romance, you’re torn between wanting to stay safe and nurtured and wanting something a little more adventurous. You’re most compatible with someone who has their Venus in Leo and in Sagittarius. "Because they're fire signs—like Aries—they're going to be fun to be with, and they'll feed your flame," Page explains. That means you'll (almost) never have a dull moment together...even after decades of marriage.
But, of course, opposites attract, too. If you're looking for a hot fling, not an LTR, go for someone with their Venus in Libra.
You want recognition for being special, Leo, and there’s nothing wrong with that. You believe life should be exciting, and that includes your love life (duh). So, your best bet at astrological romance is with another fire sign, Venus in Sagittarius and in Aries.
Believe it or not, your opposite isn't a water sign. It's an air sign: Venus in Aquarius. While you might think a lot of sparks will fly between fire signs, there's "a whole lot of spark" between these two, says Page. Since air signs are all about intellectual connection, an Aquarius can bring a lack of competition to the relationship and help you explore new ideas.
You’re inspired by knowledge and new ideas, Venus in Sagittarius. You always want to try something exciting and different—with someone equally on board by your side. You'll find just that in fellow fire signs, Venus in Aries and in Leo, according to Page.
When it comes to opposites attracting, keep an eye on Venus in Gemini. They're an air sign, so you might run into conflict when they're not down to try every crazy, exciting thing you throw their way before thinking it through. Still, if you can nail an intellectual connection, your sexual one will be Off. The. Charts.
Those with their Venus sign in Aries, Leo, and Sagittarius all bring the heat as fire signs. Together, they're passionate, forward, and direct in their approach to love, Clervoix says. If you're both fire signs, you'll be great at taking initiative with each other, while also keeping up the facade of the "chase" that can make relationships sexy and exciting.
In short, you both have a tolerance for a bit of game play when paired together. "It's all about the pursuit," Clervoix says. "They want the energy from the other person to stir something up in them," she says. Basically, fire signs aren't shy about what they want, and they want someone who is action-oriented and will put in the effort they find attractive.
You’re not always sure what you need, Venus in Gemini, so you often look for experience and guidance in an S.O. You crave a mental connection based on communication, so you'll be most compatible with your fellow air signs: Venus in Libra and in Aquarius.
If you're looking for sparks to fly, your opposite attraction sign is Venus in Sagittarius. Just be ready for those sparks to flame out after you don't see eye-to-eye on one too many topics.
Those with their Venus in Libra are the astrological equivalent of "good texters." You want intellectual stimulation and communication all day, every day, according to Page. So you need someone who thinks like you—and will always return your texts—a.k.a. your fellow air signs, Venus in Aquarius and in Gemini.
On the flip side, your opposite attraction sign is fiery Venus in Aries. They have a strong ego and will bring excitement to your relationship—the bennies of which you'll reap in the bedroom, trust. Just know that a gust of wind (in the form of intellectual differences, for example) could snuff out this flame.
You want to express your uniqueness and be accepted for who you really are, Venus in Aquarius, which may or may not explain why you like talking—a lot. You need a sign that can keep up with your intellect, which is why you're most compatible with your fellow bags of hot air, Venus in Gemini and in Libra, says Page.
When it comes to opposite zodiac signs, you probably won't be able to resist someone with fire sign Venus in Leo. You’re both independent and have a desire to help others. But that, combined with a fire sign's need for near-constant excitement, can leave you feeling lonely if you don't spend enough time focusing on each other.
If your Venus is Aquarius, Gemini, or Libra, you're most compatible with your fellow air signs. You all share the same energy and spirit—usually one that's very self-sufficient and independent. And since two air signs in Venus will understand this about each other, that makes them a great love match, Clervoix says.
And yep, air signs are also very communicative, which means that together, they are able to easily talk about the needs and conflicts they might have without straight-up breaking things off at the first sign of trouble, Clervoix notes. They're also quite logical, though, so odds are most fights will resolve without a need to hash a ton out anyway.
While the same elements are typically drawn to each other, there are other pairs that make a particularly good Venus match: Like fire and air, for example, who have the ability to be a flirty, fun, and dynamic pair, Clervoix says.
Passionate fire signs often need a physical outlet to express their energy, and they tend to be pretty outward-focused. This is what makes air signs a great match for fire signs, says Mesa. "Air provides the logic, the same way how when we breathe, we get oxygen to the mind," she explains. When a fire sign is agitated and is compelled to act out, their air sign partner will provide them with logic and calm to help them in the right direction, Mesa says.
People with their Venus in Pisces, Cancer, or Scorpio are water signs, and if you get two of 'em together, odds are there's going to be a *lot* of emotions present in this duo. TBH, water signs are known for having a lot of depth to their feelings, Clervoix says, so when they get into a relationship together, there's a lot of space for them to understand each other's (many) passions.
Basically, it'll be lots of long talks and safe spaces to work through all the ~deep feels~ that come up when you're dating someone—and they're kind of better equipped to handle each other than any of the other elements, Mesa says.
If your Venus is in Cancer, you have a lot of emotions—and you're not afraid to share them with a partner. "Water signs need to have their feelings understood," says Page. And who better to understand a water sign's feelings than another aquatic? That's why you're most compatible with Venus in Pisces and in Scorpio. (Especially Scorpios—their strength, intensity of emotions, and ability to surrender sexually is really hot for you.)
If you're looking to knock boots with an opposite sign, hit up a Venus in Capricorn. They're an earth sign, so together you can create a whole new world... as long as you don't end up muddying the waters (sorry, had to).
You dig intensity, perseverance, and strength, so you need an equal partner in life, Venus in Scorpio. You feel deeply and want to share your emotions with someone you trust wholeheartedly, says Page. That's why she recommends finding love with other water signs, Venus in Pisces and in Cancer. They just ~get~ you.
Your opposite sign is Venus in Taurus, an earth sign. They can help ground you in a relationship, but they might not completely understand how you're feeling (sigh). Still, whenever you get into arguments, you can always depend on some seriously hot makeup sex, says Page.
You can struggle to feel anchored in this world, Venus in Pisces, which is why you need someone who understands—and validates—your feelings. You're all about having an emotional connection, says Page, so you need a partner that prioritizes that, too. Enter your fellow water signs, Venus in Cancer and in Scorpio.
Your opposite attraction sign is Venus in Virgo, an earth sign that will likely help you ground some of those feels. Your sexual connection will be undeniable, but things might get a bit, uh, rocky when it comes to your emotional connection. Earth signs love being cozy and comfortable, but an in-depth heart-to-heart isn't always as important to them. It'll be up to you whether you'll want to get over that...or over them.
Like the other elements, those with their Venus in Capricorn, Virgo, and Taurus—a.k.a. the earth signs—tend to gravitate toward each other. "They have that emotional stability," Mesa says, and like the actual element itself, they're very "grounded" as a couple. (Translation: Not a ton of outbursts and door-slamming kinda fights in this duo.)
"Earth is very tangible, and it's all about the here and now," Mesa explains. Basically, this pair is going to value the personal time they have together, and when they're with each other, it's all about the relationship. They're not vying for the other's attention 24/7 because they already have it!
You crave unconditional love and want to attract someone, instead of having to do all the work to pursue them. (Read: You've definitely played hard to get before.) Because Taurus is an earth sign, you're grounded in relationships, preferring to cozy up on the couch than bar hop all night long. "If someone with Venus in Taurus tries to date a fire sign, they could get scorched," says Page. So your best match is someone whose Venus is also in an earth sign—either Venus in Virgo or in Capricorn.
If you're looking for a hot hookup and nothing else, let opposites attract with a Venus in Scorpio. "The opposites can be more sexy because you can feel the electricity across the room," Page explains. "So there might be more fights, but there will also be better makeup sex."
You’re attracted to what you don’t understand, Venus in Virgo, and aren’t into people who are superficial. That's why your fellow earth signs—Venus in Capricorn and in Taurus—are your best match. Like you, these signs are "very touchy-feely," says Page, and just want to be comfortable with their person, a.k.a. Netflix and chill—emphasis on the chill.
But if you're looking for a good time, not necessarily a long time, you might wanna slide into the DMs of your opposite sign: Venus in Pisces. Since they're a water sign, they'll bring an emotional intensity that'll translate to some serious chemistry in the bedroom. (There might be a tad too much drama for a lasting relationship though...)
If your Venus is in Capricorn, you're all about cuffing season (and not just because your bday likely falls during it). According to Page, these signs are super touchy-feely, want to be totally comfortable around their partner, and like doing activities together, especially when those activities don't require leaving the house. So your perfect match is—surprise, surprise—fellow earth signs, Venus in Taurus and in Virgo.
Your opposite sign is water sign Venus in Cancer. They can bring the mystery and depth of emotions that your logic-loving self needs, and you'll be attracted to the spontaneity they can inject into your life. Just make sure they know when you need a timeout, mkay?
Another element duo that pairs well together? Earth and water. "They're a little bit more emotional and stable with how they are together and what they want," Clervoix says. They also aren't looking for people who play games, unlike air or fire pairings.
"Water is very compassionate, empathic, subliminal, and it very much helps the earth find that safety and grounds it," Mesa says. In this way, earth signs get a bit of emotional reciprocity through the water signs (who always have deep feels), and it helps them hold down the fort of their energy and mental state. "Together, they create stability," Mesa says.